5 fears to forget about…

Every­one, with­out excep­tion, knows how impor­tant peace is dur­ing preg­nan­cy. How­ev­er, it is at this time that count­less fears lie in wait for you. Of course, after child­birth, all expe­ri­ences will be for­got­ten, and the past preg­nan­cy will seem to be one of the best peri­ods of your life.

To what extent are the most com­mon fears jus­ti­fied?

First­ly, as the term of child­birth approach­es, a pan­ic pic­ture emerges in you more and more. How­ev­er, a few hours that give life to your baby are not at all worth months of fear. After all, if you delve into the phys­i­o­log­i­cal aspects, it will be easy to under­stand that there is, in fact, noth­ing to be afraid of dur­ing child­birth. At this time, the amount of hor­mones of joy (endor­phins) will nat­u­ral­ly increase in your blood, so that every­thing will go off with a bang. If you are afraid of excru­ci­at­ing pain, then sim­ply lis­ten­ing to the doc­tor’s advice about push­ing out, you can sim­ply not notice them. In the same case, when child­birth is com­pli­cat­ed or delayed, the doc­tors will decide on local anes­the­sia. But you should not lis­ten to your friends — after all, they are over­whelmed with pride that they gave the world a new life. So all you have to do is for­give their exag­ger­a­tions. More­over, the vast major­i­ty of women in labor will agree that all “suf­fer­ing” was imme­di­ate­ly for­got­ten when the baby was already born.

Sec­ond­ly, many preg­nant women think that they will not be able to cope with the child at all. This is espe­cial­ly true for young moth­ers. It is eas­i­est to calm down here: even if your main hob­by is danc­ing or roman­tic walks under the moon, you are unlike­ly to swad­dle your baby’s head, not his legs. Of course, this approach does not guar­an­tee the absence of ques­tions — so scout the phone of a com­pe­tent per­son (this can be either a pedi­atric nurse or just an expe­ri­enced friend).

Third­ly, the most impor­tant fear of all preg­nant women with­out excep­tion is that the baby may be born unhealthy. It is this fear that will haunt you for the rest of your life. It is also facil­i­tat­ed by “attrac­tive” med­ical sta­tis­tics (like the one that the per­cent­age of chil­dren with Down syn­drome is no more than one). It is clear that in a posi­tion it is dif­fi­cult to per­ceive infor­ma­tion ade­quate­ly, espe­cial­ly relat­ed to num­bers, but you should not give up com­mon sense either. After all, you vis­it the doc­tor reg­u­lar­ly in order to pre­vent pos­si­ble com­pli­ca­tions. By the way, the dura­tion of each appoint­ment only indi­cates the com­pe­tence of the doc­tor. But a large num­ber of pre­scribed drugs should alert — espe­cial­ly when it comes to a paid clin­ic. Unfor­tu­nate­ly, the phar­ma­co­log­i­cal busi­ness today is one of the most suc­cess­ful, and, cor­rect­ly using unfa­mil­iar terms, a preg­nant woman can be forced to buy a lot of unnec­es­sary drugs. So in any ambigu­ous sit­u­a­tion, you should find anoth­er spe­cial­ist for coun­sel­ing or take addi­tion­al tests.

Fourth­ly, you are prob­a­bly afraid that all your attrac­tive­ness will dis­ap­pear after the appear­ance of the baby. How­ev­er, no one for­bids mom to be beau­ti­ful — this can be eas­i­ly seen by look­ing at Hol­ly­wood stars who have sev­er­al chil­dren — while they will eas­i­ly “give odds” to any 20-year-old nul­li­parous beau­ty. More­over, fem­i­nin­i­ty implies smooth lines and some “round­ness” of forms, and they appear only if a woman ful­fills her main pur­pose — to be a moth­er. Of course, the posi­tion of “humil­i­ty and non-inter­ven­tion” will not work here. You will have to fight for beau­ty — but you will have one more (and not unrea­son­able) rea­son to be proud of your­self.

And, final­ly, you may be afraid that the new­ly-made father of the fam­i­ly will not cope with his new posi­tion. Indeed, nature has pre­pared a slight­ly dif­fer­ent role for a man, so it is hard­ly worth expect­ing from him the same that a woman feels when she car­ries a baby under her heart. Of course, cer­tain prob­lems may arise on this basis, but do not let them devel­op into glob­al dis­trust. But you must under­stand that the main rea­son that dad is act­ing strange, to put it mild­ly, is that he is even more afraid of you. Yes, and time must pass — after all, you had nine whole months of prepa­ra­tion, and the man received an “incom­pre­hen­si­ble scream­ing crea­ture” in one day. By the way, such a dis­tance does not always occur — but even if this is the case, then as the baby grows up and “turns him into a per­son,” every­thing will cer­tain­ly nor­mal­ize.

Among oth­er things, you may be afraid of changes in the sex­u­al sphere or that the baby will be replaced in the mater­ni­ty hos­pi­tal — as you know, “fear has big eyes.” Try to con­nect com­mon sense and rely on the lev­el of mod­ern med­i­cine. After all, what was a prob­lem ten years ago has lost all rel­e­vance today. So lis­ten to “hor­ror sto­ries” from moth­ers and grand­moth­ers is not worth it. And in gen­er­al, you need to focus less on pos­si­ble trou­bles. In these nine months, your task is to walk, relax, drink vit­a­mins and recharge with pos­i­tive. If you need com­mu­ni­ca­tion, then try to find it on one of the many forums — it is clear that not in a med­ical one.