As a rule, most future dads, having only heard about partner childbirth, immediately abandon this idea, and rely on centuries-old traditions, according to which a woman gives birth in the presence of a midwife. At the same time, it is not uncommon for couples to go to the delivery room together. If you have made such a decision, then the future dad should prepare properly. The husband should definitely attend pregnancy courses with you. There he will be able to learn a lot of new information on the postpartum period in the life of your crumbs. Particular attention should be paid to the lecture on joint childbirth, which refers to the process itself, and what kind of help a man can provide. Moreover, the lecture is accompanied by a documentary film. A woman should also ask her husband for help, because no doctor can replace the presence of a loved one. Moreover, after a caesarean section, the child can be laid on the father’s chest, and this will serve as the foundation for further strong relationships.
There is also a medical aspect of preparation — before going to the delivery room, the husband must undergo a fluorography, pass a bacterial culture for staphylococcus aureus and blood tests for hepatitis, syphilis and HIV. You will also need a referral from a therapist. In addition, the husband will need clean clothes and shoes in order to get to the delivery room.
A woman should also explain to her husband that the first birth can take up to 16 hours, so not only patience, but also dry rations will be required. It should also be taken into account that a woman during childbirth cannot look perfect. If suddenly psychological discomfort arises in the process, then it would be better to ask the spouse to leave the delivery room. Although the husband’s physical help will not be superfluous — to give a massage, give water, and so on.
The future dad can massage the lower back of the woman in labor, thereby providing optimal pain relief. If suddenly you don’t remember how to breathe correctly, you can ask your spouse to help you — especially if he studied this with you in courses.
Of course, the presence of the future father should consist in active actions, and not in “groaning behind the wall.” But you should not interfere with doctors — any reproaches are inappropriate here, it is much better to ask for the necessary comments in time. Talking “about high” will also be superfluous, as they will prevent a woman from relaxing. Men with a weak psyche have nothing to do in the delivery room, because obstetricians do not need another patient who suddenly fainted.
Every man accompanying his wife to childbirth must understand that they are divided into three periods:
- contractions, that is, preparatory muscle contractions, lasting about 10–12 hours. This is where massage and psychological support will be needed,
- Attempts can last about an hour. Here, the husband can duplicate the recommendations of the medical staff, because the woman will perceive the voice of a loved one better. Do not forget about proper breathing,
- the appearance of the placenta. At this moment, the young father will already be busy, enthusiastically examining his baby, but the woman in labor will have to work a little more. However, the final stage of childbirth is one of the most euphoric.
According to many doctors, the presence of a loved one during childbirth provides the woman in labor with peace and comfort, and also gives her confidence. Yes, and doctors in this case will approach the process more responsibly. After giving birth, you can take the so-called family room or shoot a touching video about the first minutes of your baby’s life. By the way, partner childbirth is not a paid service and demands to pay for it are illegal.
Of course, such an idyll is possible only if the desire to give birth together is mutual. Coercion is difficult to achieve anything, and in this case it will be redundant. If a woman cannot imagine the birth of a baby without the presence of a loved one, then you can ask your mother, sister or a friend who has given birth — in general, find someone else who will agree to accompany you to the delivery room and provide the necessary support. Fortunately, today most maternity hospitals only welcome such initiatives.