Everyone, without exception, knows how important peace is during pregnancy. However, it is at this time that countless fears lie in wait for you. Of course, after childbirth, all experiences will be forgotten, and the past pregnancy will seem to be one of the best periods of your life.
To what extent are the most common fears justified?
Firstly, as the term of childbirth approaches, a panic picture emerges in you more and more. However, a few hours that give life to your baby are not at all worth months of fear. After all, if you delve into the physiological aspects, it will be easy to understand that there is, in fact, nothing to be afraid of during childbirth. At this time, the amount of hormones of joy (endorphins) will naturally increase in your blood, so that everything will go off with a bang. If you are afraid of excruciating pain, then simply listening to the doctor’s advice about pushing out, you can simply not notice them. In the same case, when childbirth is complicated or delayed, the doctors will decide on local anesthesia. But you should not listen to your friends — after all, they are overwhelmed with pride that they gave the world a new life. So all you have to do is forgive their exaggerations. Moreover, the vast majority of women in labor will agree that all “suffering” was immediately forgotten when the baby was already born.
Secondly, many pregnant women think that they will not be able to cope with the child at all. This is especially true for young mothers. It is easiest to calm down here: even if your main hobby is dancing or romantic walks under the moon, you are unlikely to swaddle your baby’s head, not his legs. Of course, this approach does not guarantee the absence of questions — so scout the phone of a competent person (this can be either a pediatric nurse or just an experienced friend).
Thirdly, the most important fear of all pregnant women without exception is that the baby may be born unhealthy. It is this fear that will haunt you for the rest of your life. It is also facilitated by “attractive” medical statistics (like the one that the percentage of children with Down syndrome is no more than one). It is clear that in a position it is difficult to perceive information adequately, especially related to numbers, but you should not give up common sense either. After all, you visit the doctor regularly in order to prevent possible complications. By the way, the duration of each appointment only indicates the competence of the doctor. But a large number of prescribed drugs should alert — especially when it comes to a paid clinic. Unfortunately, the pharmacological business today is one of the most successful, and, correctly using unfamiliar terms, a pregnant woman can be forced to buy a lot of unnecessary drugs. So in any ambiguous situation, you should find another specialist for counseling or take additional tests.
Fourthly, you are probably afraid that all your attractiveness will disappear after the appearance of the baby. However, no one forbids mom to be beautiful — this can be easily seen by looking at Hollywood stars who have several children — while they will easily “give odds” to any 20-year-old nulliparous beauty. Moreover, femininity implies smooth lines and some “roundness” of forms, and they appear only if a woman fulfills her main purpose — to be a mother. Of course, the position of “humility and non-intervention” will not work here. You will have to fight for beauty — but you will have one more (and not unreasonable) reason to be proud of yourself.
And, finally, you may be afraid that the newly-made father of the family will not cope with his new position. Indeed, nature has prepared a slightly different role for a man, so it is hardly worth expecting from him the same that a woman feels when she carries a baby under her heart. Of course, certain problems may arise on this basis, but do not let them develop into global distrust. But you must understand that the main reason that dad is acting strange, to put it mildly, is that he is even more afraid of you. Yes, and time must pass — after all, you had nine whole months of preparation, and the man received an “incomprehensible screaming creature” in one day. By the way, such a distance does not always occur — but even if this is the case, then as the baby grows up and “turns him into a person,” everything will certainly normalize.
Among other things, you may be afraid of changes in the sexual sphere or that the baby will be replaced in the maternity hospital — as you know, “fear has big eyes.” Try to connect common sense and rely on the level of modern medicine. After all, what was a problem ten years ago has lost all relevance today. So listen to “horror stories” from mothers and grandmothers is not worth it. And in general, you need to focus less on possible troubles. In these nine months, your task is to walk, relax, drink vitamins and recharge with positive. If you need communication, then try to find it on one of the many forums — it is clear that not in a medical one.