The baptism of a baby, carried out at an early age, is an important moment, first of all, for parents. You need to choose godparents with the utmost care — after all, according to tradition, these people will be the “second parents” for your child.
Surprisingly, many fathers and mothers approach the choice of godparents irresponsibly. For example, it is not uncommon for such a role to be offered to colleagues or superiors. However, the working environment can not always be called friendly — such relationships, as a rule, rarely go beyond formal courtesy and can hardly be maintained when the situation changes.
The church offers to choose godparents according to the only criterion — love for the baby. After all, the second parents have a great responsibility — it is they who will have to support, give advice or provide any other support in case it is needed. In fact, godparents are spiritual mentors, so in no case is it necessary to choose them hastily, as well as follow traditions — parents should be guided, first of all, by the heart.
Unfortunately, today the rite of baptism is rather a tribute to fashion. Neither the parents nor the godparents take this seriously. Therefore, it is not uncommon for the same person to have several recipients, to whom, as a result, he cannot pay due attention. The communication of children with godparents is often limited to only rare visits on holidays, which means that there is no question of any spiritual enlightenment.
When choosing godparents, the existing church canons should also be taken into account. In particular, it is forbidden to act as godparents to unbelievers or unbaptized people, minors, the mentally ill, immoral, and so on. In addition, parents cannot become godparents for their own children, and a married couple cannot be chosen as godparents. Godparents must also want to perform this rite, so their desire has a direct role. In some places, a pregnant woman cannot become a godmother.
However, the choice of second parents is a purely moral issue. Mom and dad should choose godparents in such a way that they can be counted on in a difficult situation and that their advice can really support the child throughout his life. That’s why you can’t trust just anyone on such a mission.