Often, upon reaching a certain age, children begin to ask their parents to “buy a sister or brother.” Of course, most often a second pregnancy is planned in advance, so parents can determine the desired age difference between children.
However, this issue should also be taken into account the opinion of psychologists. The option with children-weather is considered the most controversial. No doubt, children with such an age difference will have many common interests, but the competition for parental love will also be strong here. When the first child enters the crisis of the age of three, he should not be limited in parental attention — so a difference of three years is considered the most unfavorable. If you decide to “buy a second” during this period, you can get pronounced protests from the older child — this can be both directed aggression and frequent illnesses. But a baby at the age of four or five years is able to become an ideal brother (or sister). It is at this age that the baby understands one truth — his mother always loves him, even if he is not around. It is even easier for an older child to accept “replenishment” — at the age of seven or eight years, the child will willingly babysit the younger one. However, a large age difference will lead to a lack of common interests among the children, so that parents will have to perceive their children separately.
Much depends on how you tell the child the news of the appearance of the youngest member of the family. A good way would be to play with dolls, where parents can simulate a similar situation. When shopping for a newborn, do not forget about replenishing toy “stocks” for an older child. Do not also sacrifice the interests of the first-born when planning a nursery — especially if he already has a personal territory.
For the period while you are in the hospital, enlist the support of relatives. Also, do not pull the older child out of his usual environment by organizing extraordinary vacations for him. The appearance of a newborn should also not serve as a reason for reducing communication with the elder.