Women who already have chil­dren from pre­vi­ous fam­i­lies almost always enter into a sec­ond mar­riage. By the way, sta­tis­tics say that the prob­a­bil­i­ty of cre­at­ing a new fam­i­ly for divorced women with chil­dren is only ten per­cent low­er than for those who do not have chil­dren. Of course, with the advent of a new dad, the fam­i­ly becomes com­plete. How­ev­er, with mutu­al under­stand­ing in such a fam­i­ly, many prob­lems can arise.

Remar­riage is always a com­bi­na­tion of future and past life. How­ev­er, the new fam­i­ly builds rela­tion­ships in a new way, but there are gen­er­al rules. So, mom should not be com­plete­ly immersed in her per­son­al life, com­plete­ly for­get­ting about her baby. After all, chil­dren have an increased lev­el of impres­sion­abil­i­ty and anx­i­ety, so it is the moth­er who should become reli­able pro­tec­tion for them. Chil­dren always seek to hear the truth and do not tol­er­ate uncer­tain­ty.

Rela­tion­ships with a step­fa­ther can be either good or bad. Their for­ma­tion will depend on the sex of the child, and on his tem­pera­ment. The inten­tions of the step­fa­ther also play a sig­nif­i­cant role — whether he wants to build a rela­tion­ship with a stranger, in fact, a baby. More than twen­ty per­cent of chil­dren will not treat their step­fa­ther inten­tion­al­ly neg­a­tive­ly. As a rule, the mood of the moth­er has a greater influ­ence on the devel­op­ment of events — an increase in her demands for the child or, on the con­trary, com­plete indif­fer­ence to him. But care and atten­tion will cer­tain­ly con­tribute to the fact that the rela­tion­ship will get off the ground and go smooth­ly.

There is one impor­tant depen­dence here — a warm rela­tion­ship with a new hus­band guar­an­tees a quick rela­tion­ship with the baby. But swear­ing in front of a child is not worth it, as this will neg­a­tive­ly affect his men­tal state. You should also not force the step­fa­ther to be a “dad” — the child must decide for him­self. Mom should not reduce the time spent with the child and should not for­bid him to see his bio­log­i­cal father, since neg­a­tive emo­tions in this sit­u­a­tion will be clear­ly super­flu­ous.

The step­fa­ther will be able to build nor­mal rela­tions with the baby much faster if he plays with him (in famil­iar or unusu­al games), does not com­pare his chil­dren with him, and will not talk to the child in raised tones. Nat­u­ral­ly, assault would also be inap­pro­pri­ate here. It is also not nec­es­sary to remove the moth­er from edu­ca­tion, caus­ing this to be the “nat­ur­al lead­er­ship” of the man in the fam­i­ly. If the new father is ready to take on such respon­si­bil­i­ty, then he should in no way dimin­ish the com­pe­tence and posi­tion of the moth­er.

By Yraa

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